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Angel, me and my husband have been trying to fall pregnant for a while now but we're not getting anywhere. Do you know of anything we can try? Are there any positions that are better than others? - baby blues anon

Hi baby blues, congratulations to you both for taking the next step and trying to conceive. Conception at the best of times can quickly feel like more of a test of fate than a joyful planned decision. Try not to let it strain your relationship or add undue stress upon you both tho, it will happen in due time. When you are trying to conceive, sex can fast become more than just the fun act of sexual gratification but a powerful force of emotions full of highs, lows and everything in-between. Unfortunately there is no proven definitive answer to your question but I can offer you some advice on increasing your odds for a pleasurable and healthy conception that will hopefully lead to success for you both in the future.

Certain positions can increase your odds of falling pregnant as they can allow for a much deeper penetration. Which means that the sperm will be closer to the cervix and can increase your odds of more of them reaching the egg faster. Plus you won't be fighting against gravity. Positions such as the missionary position, doggy style, the wheelbarrow (or seated wheelbarrow), the seashell and leapfrog are all easy and comfortable starting positions for deeper penetration. There are also a lot of variations for these particular positions so you can figure out which ones are the most comfortable and that suit you both. You could also place a pillow or cushion under your hips for added elevation of the cervix. However, although it may aid in getting the sperm swimming in the right direction it is a common misconception that you need to elevate or lay down flat on your back after ejaculation. You can still walk around afterwards. They will find their way there eventually. Sperm can last up to approximately five days in the cervix, usually taking around fifteen minutes to reach their destination. Fertilization of an egg can still occur up to forty-eight to seventy-two hours during this period. So the more you engage in the act the higher the chances of conception will be. 

The best way to increase your odds is by recognizing ovulation and tracking your cycle. Every woman is different. No cycle or ovulation day is exact or mid cycle. My best advice would be to listen to your body and keep an eye out for the changes. When ovulating and in the lead up to ovulation you will most likely begin to get hot flushes and see noticeable changes to your discharge. Ovulation usually lasts for five days. The two days before and the day of, are the days you have the highest chances of conceiving as your body will be releasing a mature egg. Your partner can also try abstaining in the days leading up to "O" day as this can aid in him producing a higher number of sperm when he ejaculates. 

Starting on pre-natal vitamins can also increase your chances. A healthy regular diet and a healthy amount of folic acid can also aid with healthy egg production and ovary function. You want your baby to live and grow in the healthiest environment possible. So look after yourself and try to just relax and enjoy the journey. After all a healthy mummy equals a healthy baby. If you and your partner have been struggling for sometime or are feeling overwhelmed, lost or stressed by the process, you can always go to your GP and put together a pregnancy and support plan. A professional after all will always give the best advice.

I hope that my advice has been helpful with your question and I wish you both the best of luck on your journey. Don't forget making the baby is fun part! So just enjoy it and if you have any further questions in the future don't hesitate to ask.




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